What Does “Balance” Even Mean? Is It Real?

I had someone the other day ask me how I stay “balanced”. And I’m like… that’s a great topic I can write about on my blog!

So here I am. Trying to think how I stay balanced—which is laughable considering I’m currently in the heat of wedding planning, holidays are coming up, I work a full-time job, I freelance creative services, I manage the From Skinny 2 Strong brand, growing my 8 Week Change Your Life Wellness Challenge, communicate and negotiate with brands almost daily, and launching a new wellness lifestyle brand in Atlanta soon and planning events for that. Oh. And staying sane. And hanging out with my fiance, playing with my dogs, and being a good friend.

Now I’m thinking, “what is “balance” anyway? Does it even exist? How does one find it?”

B A L A N C E is imaginary. It is not a tangible object. It is not concrete. It’s not something that comes easy. It’s such a FLUFFY BUZZWORD. It’s so generic—a word that so many use (including myself! not going to be fake), but have you really thought about what balance is? 

After trying to think of “how I stay balanced/find balance”, here’s my take on the B word:

Balance is honestly just a mindset. It’s shifting perspective. It’s prioritizing what is urgent and important in your life at any given moment and adjusting your life during that time.

I’ve had my fair share of panicky fits, overwhelming moments, and times where I really just want to stop all the things and sleep for a week or longer. I literally cried the other night because I want salsa dancing at my wedding so bad. LOL. So I stuffed my face with chips and sour cream and onion dip and fell asleep.

Balance is realizing you’re living a real life and nothing will ever be perfect and easy.

A peace of mind comes with that acceptance. We can’t do all the things all the time. We can’t please everybody. We can’t always make it to the gym. We can’t always hang out with friends. We have to put in work to get things done. We have to make sacrifices when a season gets busy.

It’s accepting that you’re not perfect. Your life isn’t perfect. You have to make shifts. And THAT’S OKAY.

Balance the “thing” isn’t real. 

It’s a feeling of being appreciative, accepting, content, aware, and responsible with your life at any given time. If you practice that feeling and give gratitude for whatever your life is at this moment, while striving to always be better, you will find balance.

A real girl’s tricks for keeping my stuff together and “staying balanced”:

  • Count your blessings and acknowledge your gratitude
  • Keep lists every day of everything you have to do and what you want to do. 
  • Cry if you feel like it
  • Have a glass of red before bed
  • Practice self-love by doing a face mask, taking an extra long shower, reading a book
  • Work towards whatever it is you need to get done/goals every. single. day. Even if it’s just a small task
  • Call a friend and vent. Or we can start a “venting” hotline here on this post. Let it all out in the comments, then put yourself to work and make moves
  • Pet your dog. or cat.
  • Give in to a craving if you have one
  • Do NOT go to bed until you’ve done at least one thing on your to-do list that day

So what is balance and how do you find it? It’s different for all of us because all of our lives and needs are different. But accpeting your life and needs as they are… that’s the first step.

 

photo by https://www.nathalymarques.com/

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10 Comments

  1. October 12, 2017 / 4:37 pm

    Thanks for posting this! A good reminder to think about what balance means in my life too.

    • elizabeth
      October 12, 2017 / 4:57 pm

      It’s so unique to all of us. xo

  2. Michele
    October 12, 2017 / 4:38 pm

    I like “Have a glass of red before bed.” I’ll incorporate that into my “balanced” life. Thanks for the tip!

    • elizabeth
      October 12, 2017 / 4:55 pm

      It’s the biggest trick in the book

  3. Katherine
    October 12, 2017 / 4:53 pm

    I love this post! I was literally just talking to my bf the other day about how I am starting to accept that my life will never be perfect and I will never check everything off my to-do list. When I was younger (probably high school and college) I was always able to check everything off my life (homework, workout, sleep, see friends, do laundry, etc), but now I find that’s sometimes I don’t have time for everything — and that is OKAY! I love that you included that being appreciate and counting your blessings helps you, because I find that it’s better to accept the positive (like what you do have or what you were able to complete) than focus on the negative (how someone else seems to have it all figured out, etc.). Life is a balancing act and I think i’ll spend the rest of it trying to figure it what balance means for me!

    • elizabeth
      October 12, 2017 / 4:56 pm

      YES. everything was so much more simple when all we had to do was go to class and do chores ha! I think being grateful is what keeps me going strong all the time. So happy you can relate xo

  4. Alexandria
    October 13, 2017 / 8:58 am

    Ah this is exactly what I needed to read. Love how you describe balance as a mindset, more than an actual tangible “thing”. Being able to turn things on and off in our mind is such a great gift, and you described it perfectly.
    Love you. Love your blog. Love everything you’re about! Keep being you!

  5. Sara B
    October 13, 2017 / 10:53 am

    Great post! I struggle to find balance in motherhood/wife hood while still finding a little time for self love in there as well. Great reminder that all the roles we wear have their own place and you can’t do everything great at the same time! Shifts in perspective like you said! Xx

  6. Jamie Rogers
    October 13, 2017 / 2:02 pm

    Great post! Such a great reminder for all busy women!

  7. October 13, 2017 / 9:40 pm

    Loved and needed this. Finding “balance” is something I’ e definitely been struggling with. How to fit it all in without wearing myself down. This puts into such a good perspective and I’m definitely going to begin following that list. Also about to start calling you for vent sessions! Haha

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